Life is busy, life is hard, life is life! Somewhere in the midst of the days turning into weeks, life got involved, it was busy, it was frustrating and it got out of hand. I can’t put my finger on it, however I was able to notice that my thoughts were spewing negativity, my mouth was just as bad. I noticed that I was complaining to my family, how gross! As with anything, the right tools have been provided for me to combat this issue. I am reviewing a book called Unsinkable Faith, you must get it when it comes out at the end of March. You can pre-order it today, while I’m only 5 chapters in, I am learning a lot. One thing I like is that she uses a lot of facts to back up what she is saying. You will have to check it out. Today, was just what I needed to read, shocker, huh!
The author said something today that really spoke to me, “We have as much free will to choose to be positive and happy as we do to choose to be negative and unhappy.” They both require the same effort, so why would we ever choose to be “Negative Nancy’s”!
Romans 12:2 says in the Message, “So here’s what I want you to do, God helping you: Take your everyday, ordinary life—your sleeping, eating, going-to-work, and walking-around life—and place it before God as an offering. Embracing what God does for you is the best thing you can do for him. Don’t become so well-adjusted to your culture that you fit into it without even thinking. Instead, fix your attention on God. You’ll be changed from the inside out. Readily recognize what he wants from you, and quickly respond to it. Unlike the culture around you, always dragging you down to its level of immaturity, God brings the best out of you, develops well-formed maturity in you.”
I loved reading that today, some where I got well-adjusted and wasn’t intentional in my actions and thinking. It doesn’t really matter how it happened, what does matter is that I realized it and I’m doing something about it. None of us are perfect, we are just trying to get from one day to the next the best way we know how. I do know that I have let negativity creep in by gossiping. Man, that is tough, to never say anything negative about anyone. I am definitely guilty of not always looking for the good in others, so I am on a course correction taking it back to the beginning.
Ephesians 4:29 is a great place to start. I am going to go back to this, and I am only going to speak things that build others up. Even when I am venting to Allen, I can tell that it does no good. In the end, I am still talking negatively of others. The outcome is that we have only gotten angrier as a result of talking about someone else when we should have been lifting them up. The point is there is no right person to gossip about, even if you think that someone deserves it. It is not our call!
If you are struggling with negative thinking, you can do something about it. Admit your need to change and seek God’s help in doing so. Colossians 3:1-2 puts it this way. So if you’re serious about living this new resurrection life with Christ, act like it. Pursue the things over which Christ presides. Don’t shuffle along, eyes to the ground, absorbed with the things right in front of you. Look up, and be alert to what is going on around Christ—that’s where the action is. See things from his perspective. (Message)
We HAVE to be intentional; intentional about loving, being positive, controlling our tongues, whatever area you are focusing on. Life is going to keep going, we have to be ready and being intentional in what we want and what God wants for our lives and the lives of our family has to be at the top of that list.
Hope you have a great weekend!
Our thoughts, not our circumstances are what determines our happiness. (Tracie Miles)