When Allen and I got married on a hot, sunny ‘no rain?’ June day, we said in our vows “from this day forward”. We didn’t say, let me remind you of what you did prior to us dating. Let me remind you of your shortcomings, we said from this day forward!
We said it, we meant it, but we didn’t do it! We were newlyweds, two imperfect people trying to mesh our lives and our baggage together. I think this start is true for most of us. We have all of these visions about what life will be like and when we veer off course we aren’t ready for it. We began to see early on in our marriage that when we had God at the center, we lived in harmony. However, when we pushed Him to the side, we would be at each other, bringing up all our past failures, creating a crazy homemade mess.
So, that brings me to my point today. “From this day forward”, the Bible tells us numerous times that we are accepted just as we are. Our past is wiped clean when we accept God’s love for us, no record of wrongs. So, as I pondered this last night, it got me thinking. God holds no record of wrong over us, but we do!
We all are guilty of it, or at least I know I am. I remember people by their shortcomings. If you are in a conversation with someone and they are trying to tell you about someone, they could say, you remember…the girl who good pregnant in high school or perhaps the guy that got arrested for stealing. It’s how you remember them, they could be a totally different person now, but they wear the label of their bad choices with them wherever they go. It’s sad really, we should all be known for who we are today. Not who we used to be…I used to be crazy, I used to try to fit in so hard that I lost myself. I used to judge people, gossip to make myself feel better about who I was. I shouldn’t be remembered by who I was, but who I am today. I am a woman chasing after God’s own heart for our hurting and depressed world. I live each day to serve Him in new and exciting ways. I try to cloth myself with compassion, I am working on being humble and being a better listener.
I just want to encourage you today, to see people for who they are today. Not who they used to be, if Jesus wipes the slate clean for each of us, then we should also do that for one another and do so daily. Especially ourselves, I am my own worst critic. I often am the one who reminds myself that I’m not good enough. However, the truth is that I am good enough because I am exactly the way God wants me to be. When I am seeking after Him whole heartedly, He is equipping me for His work. No matter how big or small that task at hand may be.
So, let’s all practice living from this day forward, loving people right where they are today. It will make a huge difference in the lives of those you encounter. I know it makes our marriage roll in harmony, we have come along way from those first few years of marriage. We don’t live in the past, we are not the same people that we used to be. We take each day coming as the gift that it is and cherish one another. We love each other like Jesus loves us.
“Keep no records of wrong!” It goes back to the Golden rule, treat others as you want to be treated. I’m sure none of you want to be known for your shortcomings, so therefore we shouldn’t do it to others either.
Hope you enjoy your sunny, spring Saturday!