It’s our anniversary week! I do celebrate things weekly, I love celebrations. They are always so fun to me, Allen and I have been given a gift. We have almost the whole week together while our kiddos are at camp with there grandparents. I have so much time to think and be grateful for all I have.
My marriage is a big one! I am so thankful for a strong, Christian marriage. It has not always been easy, but our love continues to grow. I’m proud of each year, they are all big anniversaries to me. We have gone through so much joy in the last 14 years, we became parents for the first time. We have stood beside each other during sickness, grief and sadness. We remain committed, we are in it to win it. We don’t have an exit strategy.
Our love grows and grows because we continually invest in one another, we cherish one another. We have a special love for one another, it comes straight from God. He is the head captain of our marriage, when we let Him. When we try to take the reins, we get out of balance. He must remain in the center of our marriage and come first.
Our love is still maturing for one another, awkwardly enough it strives in the midst of unsettling times. When life is the most confusing and trying, our love for one another deepens with each step. It is always there to remind us that God is faithful no matter the situation.
Remember that life changing fact, that God is always faithful. When we use our marriage to honor Him, He is in the midst. He loves us through one another, this love is not our own. We can love each other so deeply because Christ modeled that kind of love for us. It is a pure love, expecting nothing in return.
Of course it’s not always easy, their have been times of frustration, silence, and thoughts that should have never been spoken. BUT, and it’s a big one. We have chosen to let love conquer all, we know that we will always remain together, so we don’t let any disagreement become bigger than us. We chose to resolve, see each other’s side, sacrifice for one another, choose to admit when we are wrong.
I think once I began to look at Allen through an unselfish lens, looking at life from his angle it changed my perspective of him. He thinks differently than me, He shows affection different than me, but they are his perfect ways. I embrace everything about him, I don’t try to change him or want to. I fell in love with him exactly the way he is, God does all of the work on him that needs to be done. I just pray for Allen and God is changing both of our hearts from the inside out.
If God is not in the center of your marriage, put Him there. Let Him be the one that let’s love rule in your midst. It is the sweetest, most pure love you can have for one another. If you’re not sure how, start simple. Pray for your spouse.
We started 2017 off with these books, it was amazing. We each had our own book and started it together, follow the link to learn more and order a copy. It’s a great way to start investing in your spouse and marriage.
And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.