I feel like I cover this topic a lot, however it seems to always be poking around in my thoughts. For the better part of my life, I was always trying to measure up. I wanted to fit in and ‘do what the cool kids were doing’. I was always striving to be something, to be like someone, to act and feel a certain way. always. All the while pushing the real me back, not expressing myself in my original form for fear that I wouldn’t be liked or accepted.
Oh, how far I’ve come, I no longer base my life on the status quo. It has brought so much peace into my life With that being said, the need to measure up peers around the corner at me in unusual ways. I am becoming keenly aware and trying my best to stay proactive in this life. One way that I have noticed lately is in my parenting. I occasionally discipline my kids in a way that reflects the people I’m with. Can you relate? Like if I’m around someone who is stern and demands respect, I may say or do things differently than I would normally do them. Like I’m running a military camp over here or something, in comparison to having our mild Amish crew around who then I alter the way I say and do things to the boys. In a sense I am teaching them what it has taken me years to undo in my own thought process.
While my boys shouldn’t run around like little animals, which they typically don’t; I am noticing my inconsistency. I am working toward an even playing field where they can be themselves no matter who is over or where we are. I want them to be who God has created them to be, with the freedom to express themselves in ways that show their true character. Because, when I get those glimpses of their character-I’m overwhelmed with joy for their bright future. Cobe is one of the funniest little humans you will ever meet, he says and does things that will keep you on your toes. Family, please ask him about sharing a room with Grammy and Poppie, he had me in tears last night. 😉 Emerson thinks so deeply and is so much smarter than me as a 5th grader, just like his Dad. I love that about him, he retains any and everything he hears. My point to tell you this is to say, they are amazing just the way they are. They need discipline, but they don’t need me teaching them to strive to be people pleasers. We all need to be God pleasers.
And the beauty with that is that we were created in His image, so He is already pleased with us. Some of our choices, probably not. But with us, He is so in love. I hope that you will remember that the next time you are trying to stay in step with someone you shouldn’t even be following. God has a beautiful plan just for you, it will not look like anyone else’s because it was made just for you and your personality. Walk in His truth and light, He will give you all you need. He knows you better than anyone else in the world.
Live your own life. It is far more fulfilling and rewarding than trying to copy anything other than God’s best for you. Don’t miss out on your blessing trying to be someone you’re not. Live original.